Why You May Need a Rude Awakening

wakeupEver had a gym class like this?

Instructor:  Okay. Now, give me 8 more reps. You can do this.

My [positive self-talk] response to myself:  
No way. No way. (Deep breath.) Okay Bets. I CAN do this. (Breathing. Lots of it.) Do it. Do it. Now. Ouch. Ouch. That really hurts. All things are possible. I can do this. Yes. Yes. 3 more. 2 more. 1 more. Holy cow. I did it. Was that sweat that just stung my eye? Yes. That other ouch was my muscles saying a big, exuberant hello. Hello body. I’ve missed you. Big time. Wow. That was quite an awakening.

On Tuesday morning, I was certain that I would not make it through parts of my fitness class. Had it not been for our positive, strong, and encouraging instructor (shout out to Barbie Briggs), I’m not sure that I would have made it to the end.

That class was my Rude Awakening. Here’s why.

Over the past month, I have been eating more than my fair share of portions, indulging and rationalizing poor eating habits and having that extra glass of wine. I made decisions about skipping exercise at times that just weren’t on-brand for me or living up to the healthy woman I am and who I’m called to be.
We all do it. We get Rude with ourselves and make destructive little choices that when repeated can become big challenges and even bad habits.

Peale-Obstacles-StrengthPer usual, in perfect Betsy fashion, I got sick of it just in time. I went to Body Sculpting and received a proper and oh-so-good kick in the back side to remind me that my body is an important and sacred space, so stop being rude to it!

My a-ha moment was during deep squats when I realized that there are so many areas of our lives where we need a Rude Awakening: one that keeps us from being rude to ourselves and one that rudely awakens us to the truth.

What area or areas in your life need a Rude Awakening?

A few came to mind and this list names a few of the obvious areas where we often need a jolt – an awakening – so that we stop doing that Rude thing that we do:

  • Spiritual life – Are you nurturing your prayer, meditation, and quiet time?
  • Personal life – Are you nurturing your most important relationships? Marriage? Children? Family? Friends?
  • Physical life – Are you taking good care of your body by getting some exercise? Eating well? Indulging in moderation? Making sure that your surroundings are clear of clutter?
  • Professional life – Are you taking care of yourself by putting your strengths into action? Are you engaging with your work so that it serves others as effectively and meaningfully as possible? Are you in a rut you’re not addressing?
  • Making a Change –  Are you limiting yourself from stepping into the change you need to make?

Whether it’s a fitness class that makes us so sore that we can’t walk well (what a great reminder!) or getting up earlier to start your day with God (totally worth it, by the way), those extra 8 reps or that earlier hour will help you start making the change you may need.

Once you find an area needing attention, the kind of attention of that will jolt you into positive change, take action to do about it. Make it radical if that’s what it will take.

Bottom line: Make it uncomfortable. Make it wake you up.

Here’s the make or break catch:

You cannot give up and quit just because it hurts, or your sweating harder, or because you’re tired.

You’re going to have to psyche yourself up, dig deep, picture a vision of the result you want and push through this change-making Rude Awakening event and make it burn in your life.

Sweat baby! Get uncomfortable.

Phil413For those of you who may not realize it, if you’re this motivated to go for the change you need to wake up, chances are that it is what you’re being called to do. Yes. A calling – a little invocation from the Holy Spirit – asking you to just do it. (If you need a little extra strength, Phillipians 4:13 is a good one.)

By taking this step, you’ll be stepping more into YOUR Yes. 🙂

This kind of awakening can make you shift more quickly, and more importantly: Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. Yes. One month minimum of doing it will bring you closer to making it habit. Yes, you may have setback. Hey, you may even fail the first, second or third…or bazillionth time.

Don’t. Give. Up.

Make the change happen by trying again and again. Not doing it will feel so much worse. Staying asleep to things that aren’t serving you will just send you down a road of lower self-esteem, reduced confidence, fatigue and regret.

We’re human. We fall into old habits. This is why we have to forgive ourselves and try again, and again, and again.

If you’re ready for the challenge and want a rude awakening, all you have to do is this:

Pick something that makes you uncomfortable that is GOOD for you and will help you push pass the obstacles you have in the way. Then DO. IT. Yes. DO. IT. Take the FIRST step. That’s all you have to do.

Then, reward yourself. Celebrate that you took that FIRST STEP. That IS the hardest part. Trust me. The second hardest part – repeating it.

Warning: Don’t be tempted to reward yourself with something that will undo the good you just did! Reward yourself in a way that is supportive of the change you’re trying to make. If your gut says uh-uh, then it’s a no.  So no 400 calorie Lattes if you’re trying to change your bod, okay?

Pick your Rude area, pick an uncomfortable but beautiful game-changing action, do it, feel your awesomeness, and reward. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.

Now go WAKE UP!